Falling in Love. {explained to children}

 

Children love questions. We, on the other planet, prefer answers.  

But we also love hearing them ask, in little voices. Perhaps because children’s questions are, in a way, an uncensored, young echo of our own candor and forgotten curiosity.

Big Questions from Little People: and Simple Answers from Great Minds, “a handbook for curious children and their perplexed parents,” compiles a series of “existential” actual questions gathered from school children and answered by the world’s leading experts, including Richard Dawkins, Philip Pullman, David Eagleman and Noam Chomsky, among others.

 

 

Perhaps the most beautiful and poetic explanation of love ever offered to children, comes from the pen of Jeanette Winterson, as an answer to one of our most burning, timeless question:

How do you fall in love? 

You don’t fall in love like you fall in a hole. You fall like falling through space. It’s like you jump off your own private planet to visit someone else’s planet. And when you get there it all looks different: the flowers, the animals, the colours people wear.

 

It is a big surprise falling in love because you thought you had everything just right on your own planet, and that was true, in a way, but then somebody signaled to you across space and the only way you could visit was to take a giant jump. Away you go, falling into someone else’s orbit and after a while you might decide to pull your two planets together and call it home.

 

And you can bring your dog. Or your cat. Your goldfish, hamster, collection of stones, all your odd socks. (The ones you lost, including the holes, are on the new planet you found.)

 

And you can bring your friends to visit. And read your favourite stories to each other. And the falling was really the big jump that you had to make to be with someone you don’t want to be without. That’s it.

 

P.S. You have to be brave.

 

Now, don’t you wish you’d read this when you were seven or anytime before growing up to (mis) understand love by falling into all the possible — real or imagined — holes?

 

*Thanks to BrainPickings LiteraryJukeBox for this gem.

 

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 {P.S. You have to be brave.}

 

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Andrea Balt
Co-Founder/Editor-in-Chief of Rebelle Society, Wellness Alchemist at Rebelle Wellness & Professional Dream Chaser at Creative Rehab. Unfinished book with a love for greens, bikes and poetry; raised by wolves & adopted by people; not trying to make art but to Be Art. Holds a BA in Journalism & Mass Communication, an MFA in Creative Writing & a Holistic Health Coach degree from the Institute for Integrative Nutrition®. In her work she tries to reflect the wholeness of the human experience by combining Art & Health + Mind & Body + Darkness & Brilliance into a more alive, unabridged and unlimited edition of ourselves. She is also on a quest to reinstate Creativity as one of our essential Human Rights to (hopefully and soon) be included in the UN Declaration. Connect with her in the Social Media Jungle via Facebook, Twitter & Instagram and sign up for her FREE MuseLetter.

7 Comments

  • Scott Lepthien commented on November 12, 2012 Reply
    I fell in love with Andrea and I bring my friends to visit you here. “It is a big surprise falling in love because you thought you had everything just right on your own planet, and that was true, in a way, but then somebody signaled to you across space and the only way you could visit was to take a giant jump. Away you go, falling into someone else’s orbit….” And my falling was what I do all the time when I find a beautiful mind and spirit that makes thing look different and that I want some kind of connection. It surprises me most times when it happens because I am not expecting it. Maybe this is not the love that you are talking about here but it is the kind of love I find myself in all the time. Sometimes it is sustained, sometimes it is for a moment, sometimes the other person never knows, but I fall in love quite often. Or maybe my definition of love is just different. When I do fall in that deep hole, I want to share all my loves with my new love.
    • Andrea Balt
      Andrea Balt commented on February 15, 2013 Reply
      Sweet Scott! Thank you! “When I do fall in that deep hole, I want to share all my loves with my new love.” That should have been in the post.
    • Marc Weicman commented on September 26, 2013 Reply
      Scott. I simply agree. Eloquent in the words. Elegant in the thought. Same with me. Thank you. I do love when someone puts a thought, a feeling, I have, into words that I couldn’t have hoped to express. Thank you.
    • tanja commented on December 24, 2013 Reply
      Love your reply Scott, i share your view!
  • Jean Burman commented on November 18, 2012 Reply
    I’m kind of looking forward to finding all those odd socks with holes on the new planet (((LOL))) What a gorgeous story. I simply love it :-)
  • Michael Beck commented on December 13, 2012 Reply
    You never cease to amaze. You and the wonder stuff you dig up…”That’s it.”
  • Nathan commented on September 26, 2013 Reply
    Love it!!!

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