Normal or abnormal? The choice is yours.

“Love said to me, ‘You are not crazy enough, you do not fit this house.’ I went and became crazy; crazy enough to be in chains.” ~ Rumi

If you are abnormal, then read no further. You are in The Happy Zone, with no fear of living a dull and dreary life.

If you are normal, then you definitely need to read this – again and again – you are in danger of being moved from The Happy Zone to a dull and dreary life.

I say that normal is ugly, very ugly. There is beauty, great beauty, in being abnormal.

I ask you, was Shiva normal? Or Rama, or Krishna or Moses? And what of Buddha or Jesus, Nanak or Michelangelo? Who would call Leonardo da Vinci normal? Or Mahatma Gandhi, Picasso, even Steve Jobs? I say, NO! They were not normal.

Did any one of them accept or propagate what was normal at that time? You know the answer.

So, I ask you, were they ugly? Of course not. They were all beautiful. You would never deny their beauty, yet you accept that being normal is beautiful, because you have been conditioned since childhood to believe it is so.

Do not be normal. Do not be ugly. Be abnormal. Be beautiful. Realize yourself, with Real Eyes. With Real Eyes comes Real-I-zation.

You are as unique and worthy as all of them. There is so much beauty in you, so much magic. You are great. Do not settle for anything less.

How were they abnormal? They all broke free from the shackles and fetters of the normalcy of their times, shattered the societal conditioning, and by doing so, freed and liberated not only themselves but millions over the millennia. I ask you, how many normal people can do this? Not even one.

Being normal means living within imposed boundaries, being enslaved and entrapped by the prison of societal conditioning. Being abnormal smashes those boundaries so that you may break free and liberate yourself from the prison of societal conditioning.

Normal is limited. Abnormal is unlimited. Normal is finite, while abnormal is infinite. So, I ask you, would you be limited and finite, or unlimited and infinite?

Do you prefer to simply survive, or do you want to truly live?

The goalposts of normalcy are always still, always the same, never changing or evolving. Being abnormal means that the goalposts are never still. They are ever changing and evolving.

Parents pray for children who will break boundaries, but then they train their children to live within the prisons of conditioning. What an irony! What a paradox!

They do not want their children to be afraid, yet they instill fear. Fear of the past and fear of the future.

Systems, institutions and corporations select new recruits based on their ability to think out of the box, but once hired, their first experience is orientation. Orientation is just another way of drawing the lines and boundaries of the box. Absolutely ridiculous!

The systems, institutions and corporations are the ones that need to be boxed. And by “boxed,” I mean literally boxed in and retrained!

Why is abnormal always understood as being less than normal? Why can’t we see abnormal as being ab(ove)normal and normal as less?A shift in perception is all that is required.

Is the Divine normal? Not even by the wildest stretch of imagination! Normal is predictable and the Divine is totally unpredictable. Would you rather be normal and non-divine or be abnormal and Divine?

Predictability is death. Isn’t it death to know exactly what is going to happen and when? What could be more boring than certainty, predictability and normalcy? It is the uncertainty of what is or is not going to happen, the uncertainty and unpredictability of life, that makes life exciting and worth living! I say being normal is dying and being ab(ove)normal is living.

See the abnormal and the beauty in the other.  Recognize it and celebrate it in your self. See this beauty in your self. Know that you are abnormal, unique, and therefore, beautiful. Repose in that. Revel in that. Rejoice in that.

See the ugliness in being normal. See the beauty in being abnormal. I say, do not be ugly, do not be normal. Be beautiful in your abnormal glory.

Yet, the normal is needed to throw up the abnormal. One is not possible without the other. Both are necessary as life is paradoxical.

What is being normal? Normal is living within boundaries, in neat little boxes. Normal is always being worried about what others will think and say and living life as per your imagination of others’ expectations, without the courage to live beyond your fears. Normal is being afraid – afraid of what others will think, afraid of what lies beyond the imposed boundaries of conditioning, afraid of the known past, and also afraid of the unknown future. Oprah asked her self, “What would I do if I weren’t afraid?” and then she went ahead and did just that. She went beyond her fears. What an inspiration!

“Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious.” ~Rumi

Abnormal is breaking barriers and smashing boundaries, throwing off the shackles of societal conditioning, rejecting and discarding the past. Abnormal is welcoming and embracing the unknown. Paraphrasing Mahatma Gandhi, “When you are abnormal, first the normal ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, but then you win, and they follow you.”

The result of being normal is like a black hole imploding, sucking everything from the circumference into its center of darkness and killing it. Being abnormal is like exploding from the center to the circumference, illuminating everything and giving it life, like the sun.

There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, and be normal; or to accept the responsibility for changing them, and be ab(ove)normal. What is it going to be? You have only today. Make it a great day, make the right choice – choose ab(ove)normal. You are so worth it!

Being normal is copying, imitating, conforming, accepting and limiting. Being abnormal is creating, innovating, non-conforming, rejecting and liberating. Being normal means living within the parameters of patterns. Being abnormal means smashing the parameters of patterns. Normal is ordinary. Abnormal is extraordinary.

If you are wed to normal and you expect magic to birth in your life, it is like expecting coconut trees to spring forth from pea pods. If you want magic in your life, then you have to first divorce normal. The day you rip apart conditioning and divorce normal, that will be the first amazing day of your life. Go to bed with abnormal, shed inhibitions, have an orgy.

Your life will be full of magic, and you will be the magician – day after day.

When you can throw off every form of fear, both known and unknown, you will have a mind without fear. A mind that has no fear is capable of great love.

Being normal means being full of fears, anger, greed, ambition, attachments, hatred and a clinging to life. Being abnormal means being full of love, love, and more love and a celebration of life.

Musicians, writers, artists, dancers, singers, musicians, playwrights, poets, philosophers and lovers have to be thanked – for they take you to places in your mind and in your heart that are not normal, that are ab(ove) normal and free you. They have always been and always will be the true liberators.

Abnormal is beauty, madness is genius. Abnormal is being alive. It is better to be absolutely insane and full of joie de vivre than to be normal and absolutely boring and dead.

Normal is an illusion – what is normal for the early bird is death for the early worm. What is normal for a bat – hanging upside and sleeping – is abnormal for others.

Normal ridicules love, and love smiles knowingly at the whole absurdity of normal. Abnormal embraces love.

Nobody has the right to judge anybody as normal or abnormal. These are the ways of dominating people. When you judge someone, you are trying to interfere in their life, which is none of your business.

A real, authentic Society simply allows people to be themselves, allows them to be abnormal.

Societal conditioning has forced you to adjust to a normal and profoundly sick society. You have to rebel against societal conditioning. Stop walking the clumsy walk of the normal, sprout wings of the abnormal, and soar like a Butterfly on the wings of an Angel to your True Love – soar to the Divine.

What type of sick, normal society is this?

The first thing people talk about when they meet is about their misery – what a bum deal life has given them and how miserable they are, and they are happy that they are miserable. They are happier if the other is also miserable. If everybody is miserable, then they fit and everything is okay. They are members, they belong – they belong to us. How wonderful!

If people become creative and ecstatic, then Society thinks they have gone berserk, insane, mad, crazy, and abnormal. They no longer fit in, they no longer belong  – they no longer belong to us – and the green-eyed monster of jealousy raises its head in the collective mind of normal Society. Society condemns them out of jealousy. Driven by this jealousy, Society will try – in every way possible – to forcefully return them to their former state of misery. They – the Society – call that old miserable state ‘normal’.

Psychoanalysts and psychiatrists will help to bring them back to a state of misery – the state of fitting in, the state of belonging to Society, the state of belonging to the State – the normal and miserable state.

Society has done a great job in transforming abnormal to normal by squeezing you into The Box, and then asking you to jump out of and think outside The Box, after maiming you with normalcy. The normalizing agencies of culture, tradition, education, parents, teachers, schools, colleges, corporations, politicians, police, priests, pirs, pundits, prelates, the State – they have done a great job of this. They have made normal miserable creatures out of abnormal ecstatic creators.

Every child is born ecstatic. Every child is born in Love. Every child is born Divine. And, every man dies a madman.

Nobody is going to get out of this madhouse alive. You have got nothing – absolutely nothing – to lose in breaking free from the chains of normalcy that are keeping you shackled in this madhouse of normal people, locked up in cells of societal conditioning.

Unless you recover, unless you reclaim your childhood, you will not be able to free yourself from this mad house. You have to regain your childhood, and become abnormal. If you succeed, then the cells of this madhouse of normal will magically open to liberate you, to spring you into the abnormal World of Love.

You have two choices in life…

Be normal and travel in a tunnel which has light, but one that is tapering and getting darker with each passing moment or…

Be abnormal and travel in a tunnel which is dark, but one that is opening progressively as the light is increasing with each passing moment…

Travel from light to darkness, or from darkness to light…

Be normal or be abnormal – the choice is yours, the life is yours.

Love is the ultimate outlaw and totally abnormal. It just won’t be normal or follow any rules. Join the Gang Of Love and become an accomplice in spreading Love.

Bring in the Rule Of Love – for where Love rules, there are no other rules except Love.

I have joined the Gang Of Love and become Love’s accomplice; what are you waiting for?

Join The Gang Of Love.

Remember: no rules, only Love…Love Rulz…

Have an orgy of Love…being AbNOrMaL



More Rebelle-ion:

>>Clear space. Get naked.

>>Standing naked: can you do it?

>>You’ve got to claim your right to rapture.

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Ramanjit Garewal

Ramanjit Garewal

Ramanjit Garewal is a Master of yoga and has been teaching the classical, traditional art of Hatha yoga for more than 20 years. He presently teaches at The Yoga House A Destination For The Health Conscious in Mumbai, India. His teachers have been: Life, Nature and the Universal Self present in all of us. Thirst, hunger, longing, to know the Self, to realize the Divine, by attaining kaivalya (liberation) have pulled him to yoga. He can be contacted at
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  • Happyziam commented on November 27, 2012 Reply
    Ahhhhhhh,,,,,my beauty full brother ,,,,to be ab normal ,,,,,,,,is to be Ab ovE normal ,,,,,,,how sweet the sights from there ,,,,,love happyz,,,
  • melanieimhoff commented on November 27, 2012 Reply
    I love the comment about children. How we parents strive to have children that are successful. The definition of success, however, varies greatly. My defenition of success is finding their passion, and helping them to grow in it. :) This made me very happy.
  • Vicki Woodyard commented on November 27, 2012 Reply
    If I was normal, I would have fit in. And if I had fit in, I would have had a fit.
  • Noah Young commented on November 27, 2012 Reply
    Very passionate plea for a deeper and more compassionate understanding of what living life on life’s terms involves. Raises many important issues and the questions surrounding these issues. Well done!! Blessings of the Triple Gem to all sentient beings.
  • Mary Lynn Wakim commented on November 27, 2012 Reply
    My whole life I tried to fit into what I thought “normal” was …it wasn’t until I abandoned myself to this loneliness and isolation did I become free. I am no longer attached to labels…loving peace…only love.
  • Soul Searcher commented on November 27, 2012 Reply
    Loved reading the article. Interestingly I have noticed this many times that there is something magnetic about people who are different. The “normal” people do get very attracted to these different people but they refuse to acknowledge that and try even harder to find faults or wonder what is abnormal about these different people. Being normal is safe but being abnormal is ‘ECSTATIC”!
  • Teresa Knudson commented on November 27, 2012 Reply
    Love this! Yes, I am definitely not normal. More and more are throwing off the mental shackles and setting themselves free! When you can throw off every form of fear, both known and unknown, you will have a mind without fear. A mind that has no fear is capable of great love. Awwww yes! Great Love it is Who YOU Are! Beautiful Ramanjit <3 that you are not normal ;)
  • Ishvara Devi commented on November 27, 2012 Reply
    Thank you Ramanjit Ji, very liberating piece on freedom of Being instead of society’s script for someone, especially when the heart and soul have no harmony with it… very important contemplation, therein leading to self-liberation! :~)
  • Tanya Lee Markul
    tanya lee markul commented on November 27, 2012 Reply
    Amazing + beautiful – Ramanjit, we are so grateful you are here. Thank you for sharing your inner light, your wisdom and such beauty with an enormous amount of depth. So much love to you. xxx – TLM
  • gerda clevis van rijswijck commented on November 27, 2012 Reply
    I was yogateacher for more as 20 years . Now I am learning tao (Mantak Chia) and I like the things written above and will follow it Good Luck, Love, :-)
  • Kristin commented on November 27, 2012 Reply
    Thanks for sharing. So many statements I could relate to. It is hard sometimes to switch over to what you feel and believe from what you have been entrenched with over a lifetime. My mom used to say “Lets bring the fun back into dysfuntional”, that is when my sisters and I would say that we were a dysfunctionl, abnormal family…My mother was a rebel and ahead of her time…miss her and her insights. thanks again for bringing up important reminders of being our own persons and being proud of that! Kristin Samudra Yoga Canada
  • Manoj Khatri commented on November 28, 2012 Reply
    It’s an absolutely abnormal piece, and I love it—I am abnormal. Beautiful. Normal is such an academic concept… normal distribution curve is the statistical cliche, overused by management-types. I think we should aim for ‘natural’ instead of normal. Normal is very often unnatural. Imagination and creativity can never be normal, though they are natural phenomenon. All great inventions, discoveries, people—indeed everything that is great is abnormal. Thanks for writing and sharing such a wonderful post.
  • manjeet commented on November 28, 2012 Reply
    u sound like Osho! gr8 write up! totally agree with ur thoughts. Thanku!
  • Barbara Gini (@BodyLogique) commented on November 28, 2012 Reply
    “With Real Eyes comes Real-I-zation…” I work with children with special needs, and although I work with them to accept & work within their own “abnormal-cy” I am so much harder on myself. This piece spoke to me loudly today as I have been hesitating on moving forward with a few projects that I want to approach from a completely new angle – and have let overwhelm & fear of isolation by my colleagues slow me down. I needed to hear this from someone who does not know me (and just telling me what I want to hear). I appreciate this insight this morning!
  • Lalana commented on November 28, 2012 Reply
    Love it! I may have to shout it out to all:) For now I will post to my timeline:)
  • Kapil Bhatia commented on November 29, 2012 Reply
    Hello Ramanjit sir, The article is simply great. It lightens up the spirit. The only thing I want to ask is, you have mentioned about psychiatrists limiting thoughts to get back you to lead a normal life & be practical. Do they support logic instead of listening to the heart? Do they apply brakes to your imaginations? Do they make you feel realistic? I know some of them & very few have been encouraging to rebel to go for your love. When a person is on a low, they make them realize that they are themselves the reason for their sadness. That’s the only point i want to clear.
  • thedharmawarrior commented on November 30, 2012 Reply
    Pranams:I think we believe the same thing. Therefore, kindly allow me to add the next piece. If a baby eagle somehow was raised by penguins, flying would not be normal for that eagle. But, that specific normalcy would be abnormal for that eagle. That eagle would have to become abnormal to become normal, as in true to its inherent nature. The same is true for all of us. I agree with your telling us to become abnormal. I would take it the next step and add that this is what is necessary to return us to what should be normal for us: our Divine nature.
  • Sri Devi Maya AllowYoga commented on November 30, 2012 Reply
    Fantastic, Ramajitji ! Thank you for this writing. I absolutely agree. There is so much beauty in the strange and so much joy in the unpredictable
  • Gabriel commented on November 30, 2012 Reply
    Love the way you weave poetry into your writing..i am so glad i am normal brodering on abnormal…more abnormal now :) great post :)
  • Fiona Agombar commented on November 30, 2012 Reply
    Thank you for writing this. I keep telling my yoga students that it is OK to not fit in and to feel odd! This article also made me think about karma yoga – giving up trying to control outcome (which is what is considered ‘normal’) and just letting go and trusting that life/Isvara is doing the living through us.
  • tracie Samara commented on November 30, 2012 Reply
    Master Rumi and all the Master Saints, knew the information as a Practical Life style, and so must we…they also say, to find The Living One(Master Saint), who can show you this Truth, through the practical method of Meditation and to “Die Daily” in order to find everlasting Life…The Sound ((which can be heard from within, and only understood by the Soul, (Om) (Holy Spirit)(audible life force) will bring the Light within and without and we will come to know everything that is written and can verify with our own eyes and ears, what this means:)
  • Gary Goldberg commented on November 30, 2012 Reply
    Thank you for creating this site. One must give oneself the freedom of discovery. The freedom to explore and understand the beauty that is all around us and in us.
  • Kameron Cole commented on November 30, 2012 Reply
    “Every child is born ecstatic.” I love that! I am no so sure, however, if “abnormal” is available to everyone. Certainly, everyone can wake up, open their eyes to the truth that the air is full of possibilities, and that we are free to choose any of these, instead of being fettered into choosing “the normal one.” But the “abnormality” that comes from artistic “madness’ seems to be something we are born with – we can NOT choose to be normal, although many of us try. In short, if “normality” is totally social orientation, then the normal can pretend to be abnormal, and the abnormal can pretend to be normal. If abnormal is the same as sahasrara, of shushumna, then it must be liberated. the choice is to liberate the “madness”. this is available to everyone, but the means of liberation are different for everyone (I am thinking of a chapter by Swami Saraswati). I also love “Predictability is death. Isn’t it death to know exactly what is going to happen and when?” It reminds b of a quote from “The Sheltering Sky”, “Death is always on the way, but the fact that you don’t know when it will arrive seems to take away from the finiteness of life.” Thank you for your wisdom!!!!!
  • April commented on November 30, 2012 Reply
    Beautiful and grounding! LOVE
  • Giselle commented on December 1, 2012 Reply
    I have never fit into any mold and have been hated for being different. I wouldn’t have it any other way!
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  • Sharon commented on December 1, 2012 Reply
    One of your it…exceptionally well written..
  • Romil Parikh commented on December 2, 2012 Reply
    a lovely read! :)
  • Priyedarshi Jetli commented on December 2, 2012 Reply
    Beautiful piece! Though I would suggest a twist of the use of the word ‘normal’. What does ‘normal’ mean? The only precise use of this word I can think of is in body temperature; 98.6 degrees Fahrenheit, that is supposed to be normal. That means your body is in balance and you are healthy for the most part. I would suggest a similar use of the word ‘normal’ for our psyche. When a person is mentally healthy, in balance, then she/he is normal. That is when one does what one really wants to do and does it regardless of what anyone else says, that is mentally healthy, and that is normal. In this way to do something to ‘fit in’ is abnormal because it cannot be what you really want to do, it is not coming from inside of you. When Phillipe Petit walked on a tight rope between the two towers of the Twin Towers in New York in 1974, he was the most normal person because he was doing what he wanted. Priyedarshi
  • Tracy commented on December 2, 2012 Reply
    To think that I once despaired of being abnormal when I now embrace it! Thank you, too, for the reminder that it is important to teach our children to embrace their individuality as well. Fabulous piece!
  • Grazilia commented on December 3, 2012 Reply
    The more I read your articles the more and more I feel that you write so much like Osho. I used to regret that I didn’t get a chance to meet him but then I made peace with the thought that I got exposed to his teachings, his books and his audios. But, when I read your articles I know that I have no reason to regret but enough to celebrate :) Glad to have met you and known you :) I’m taking baby steps back to the childhood me, to the time when I was un’adult’erated. So that I don’t die a madwoman.
  • Taila commented on December 3, 2012 Reply
    Great writing!! I am working up my way to live life as byway of living and this very very helpful in many way for me to be able to understand more which road I am heading for. I am always seeing myself as a student never stop learning and always looking for who can show me more what life is al about in many different way. happy to read even my english is not so good but I felt fired in my heart. Thank you for sharing a great story as always . God bless you <3 Raila.
  • B Berta Gudjons commented on December 5, 2012 Reply
    thank you Ramanjit for your great article. Your writing is really a mind/eye opener. It’s such a good feeling to connect with other abnormal minds,, I am so proud of not being normal and not fit in. Earlier days it was often difficult and I could not understand why I could not fit in and often I felt alone. Once I even wished I could be an alcoholic to it into a group AA :)) I am happy it did not happen. I love the freedome out of the box and want to grow deeper into the blissfulness of not caring what other people think about me.,Namaste.B. Berta
  • connie benhmida commented on December 11, 2012 Reply
    The message is received…so elegant..such a gift you have been entrusted from the Creator of All things…thank you for sharing your mind with me :)
  • Liz Barrington commented on December 11, 2012 Reply
    Such beautiful writing Ramanjit, it is so open and honest from your heart and soul! It is magical, it is loving, it is simply the truth. I love it!! I always choose to be very abnormal and happily live with my free spirit and from my heart, and I love being so! With much love and blessings to you, you’re such an amazing soul! Namaste <3
  • Nietzsche Kant commented on December 12, 2012 Reply
    Excellent! Ramanjit SIR. Thanks for this eye opener. A radical, non-confirming orientation given to the conservative thought pattern of regimentation; I like the way it is encouraging the endeavors towards accomplishing enterprising changes through revolutions rather than evolution. Paradoxically a trend setter doctrine.
  • raviraj sharma commented on December 16, 2012 Reply
    Awesomely encapsulated “societal/social conditioning” . It’s something that has bothered me since I was a little kid, Great to see it expressed in such a way.
  • swati joshi commented on December 19, 2012 Reply
    ramanjitji,you know i am abnormal and i mean it.
  • Beth (@betherann) commented on November 6, 2013 Reply
    Yes and yes and yes!
  • sardar arshad rafiq rafiq commented on November 14, 2014 Reply
    Ramget is a Jesus of love he have a migical healing power of ciring love as Jesus’s has a power to turned dead back to life he has power to dead love into alive again his poor luck is he is from third world figjting more time to earn livily hood of life for him self and his dependents if he would have been in west he will ematge as pop of love and people around him feel as they are in a city of Vatican of love
  • Cindy Harrington Gunter commented on November 15, 2014 Reply
    Beautiful writing Ramanjit!!!! It’s resonates very much with me i remember the days when i thought normal was good that was much earlier yrs and now abnormal is my freedom when i started being me and not worrying what others thought I gave the universe my love once i realized this was my calling I felt cheated oh why have I been so normal I want to get naked. ;) I pinned it and shared on goggle darling..Love you darling..<3 <3
  • Dani commented on April 5, 2015 Reply
    I wish I had read this in my early twenties when I was struggling with my ‘abnormality’ and trying my damndest to be like everyone else to be ‘accepted.’ Geezuz… tha phuck was I thinking??!!!! Being who you really are, being ‘different’ and unique is our greatest gift – now I’m finding this out and it’s really making me feel like I’ve found the holy grail. Loving every day of unveiling of my true self. More of us that do this the better. GREAT ARTICLE.

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