Sex, guys and plastic dolls.

Inspired by Guys and Dolls (BBC Real Doll Documentary).

“The biggest problem my father has with my relationships is that (my partner) is not alive—she’s not a real human being.”

A tailor-made partner providing love that real flesh and blood cannot.

Being alone versus being lonely—have you experienced the difference? It can seem at times quite difficult to find a mate, perhaps even impossible, but what lengths are you willing to go to attain an element of ‘company’?

For about 5-6,000 USD, one can purchase an alternative, custom-made partner, a human-size female doll, and, according to the men in this documentary, they’re worth every penny.

The dolls come in different shapes, sizes, colours and some even have the option of having their pubic hair come from Sweden. All of which are well endowed with female features, such as high cheekbones, make-up, breasts and a vagina, but because they are more Barbie-like and well, plastic, they aren’t really a representation of the average organic female body.

“I’d never be able to get a real woman that would look like this but the real doll can give me that.” 

The real unattainable versus the unreal attainable.

The men in this documentary seemed to have chosen a relationship with dolls as a result of either numerous failed relationship attempts and the fear of failing if tried again; abandonment and/or a traumatic experience, for example, the death of a loved one; a twisted self-perception; being socially inept from birth; a sex addiction; or the horrific anticipation of being left ‘lonely’, hence a long-term doll option versus a temporary or one-night stand scenario.

The food bills are way cheaper.

No lies, no deceit and no talking. Perhaps there’s something about the element of control when having a relationship with a doll—you get to control the outcome, the experience and the fact that they can’t ever leave.

These men literally live in their own worlds, they do what they have to do for work, for money, but when they come home to the walls of their own homes, they do exactly what they want to do, with their dolls that is—who will always be home waiting for them and ‘love’ their men no matter what.

A key ingredient the dolls provide is: emotional (and sexual) stability.

“As good as the sex is with them, the piece of mind is better.”

So for some, I suppose money can buy love, or at least a synthetic replacement, but is it wrong? Live and let live or re-examine why someone in our society should not feel accepted? Who’s responsible for the lonely and insulated?

“There are worse things in life than living with dolls, like living alone.”

I’ve surveyed 10 random people to get their opinions:

1. I don’t feel like I want to judge them. I really don’t know.

2. Maybe it’s preventing them from meeting a real person or maybe it’s making their life better.

3. I don’t think it’s wrong to have a doll girlfriend, but it’s obvious there’s a problem that’s not being dealt with.

4. Perhaps this is taking sex toys to a whole new level?!

5. Maybe it’s population control—which is a weird thought in itself.

6. I want to be as compassionate as possible, but I’m not really sure how that articulates.

7. Maybe it’s preventing them from acting out more dangerous or ridiculous things.

8. Wow—human proclivities can take on many different forms! I don’t know what to say!

9. It seems innocent, but a little fascinating, sad and creepy.

10. It would be interesting to find out how these neural-pathways were created and if there is a level of delusion or intuition involved.

Share your opinion in the comments. 

A real-life doll heaven: Britty, Lexi, Wendy, Sandy, Misty, Christy and Jazzy.

Sure, it might all start with sex, but it’s pretty obvious that we all aren’t having sex to reproduce…either companionship or sex-partner, the dolls represent some kind of fulfilment in these men’s lives…

What do you think? 

*****

 {What’s wrong with me? I’m real.}

 

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Tanya Lee Markul
Co-Founder and Chief Editor of Rebelle Society (you are here). She’s convinced that she once swam the depths of the deepest ocean and in the next round, grew over two hundred feet tall. In this life, she’s a vulnerable creation in process. She has a Bachelor of Science in Journalism & a Master’s in Business. In 2009, surrendering to the good fight within, she became a certified teacher of yoga. Now a full-time devoted student to the sacred art of self-discovery and creative expression, she spends her days on her yoga mat, in wellness experimentation and tilling the fertile soil of Rebelle Society, sharing bouts of black sheepish rebellion, self-acceptance and the beauty of darkness and well-being. Tanya is the creator of ThugUnicorn.com and Yoga.Write.Now.org. She is also the co-founder and Wellness Alchemist at Rebelle Wellness. Get to know her on Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter and at Yogacentralen.dk. Sign-up for her free and almost monthly Newsie and contact her via email: tanya@rebellesociety.com.

15 Comments

  • Michael Beck commented on December 24, 2012 Reply
    Oh my… Just woke up, and this is a nightmare i am so thankful I never had( though probably will tonight,thanks alot TanyaLee…)yet. Pubic hair from Sweden?Hmm, I think a follow-up article on women who sell their pubic hair to the giant scary doll industry might be quite interesting too. Creepy? No,absolutely frieghtning to me. Although a Blade Runner type Robot babe might be fun in a brave new world sort of way. No,I am baffled and amused( did I mention frieghtned?) and all I want to do now is crawl back into bed and count electric sheep and dream a warm woman who smiles and sighs and holds me and whispers it’s alright baby,it’s alright..
  • SR Atchley
    SR commented on December 24, 2012 Reply
    Perhaps this is just another installment in my “I have no idea how men think” realization series. Thanks, T.
  • Andrea Balt
    Andrea Balt commented on December 24, 2012 Reply
    Wow. I’m speechless. In a way, I feel like this is a “flesh & bone” exaggeration of the Virtual romance effect… I need a moment to recover…
  • Amy commented on December 24, 2012 Reply
    Where are the male dolls?! Good lord, can you imagine dating someone with a life-size doll? You accidentally find it stuffed into a closet or under the bed? Hilarious!
  • sierra la fey commented on December 24, 2012 Reply
    I think it’s a disgusting concept… have we really entered past the point of having no respect for women that we are now creating mindless sex toys as replacements? I pity the men who are weak enough to experience these artificial pleasures.
  • michelle commented on December 24, 2012 Reply
    ewwwwww!
  • poetryblooms commented on December 25, 2012 Reply
    Hey Doll This Cheerleader, Your Quarterback Even your Artist Wild You supply the Name, This object of your affection may not be so much flesh and blood but art perfected for you. Your cherished … may be your koan, your mirror to see at last the mind behind you so frequently ecstatic or aggrieved. This thought arising your… with the luscious … your very opportunity not only to get laid, travel or set up house. But to hear, to listen, to begin a conversation, to be the Friend a certain young person, never had.
  • Jim Fry
    Jim Fry commented on December 25, 2012 Reply
    Reminds me of the flick Lars and The Real Girl. When I watched it I was disturbed and cringed, a lot, because it exposed me to the *facts* that folks experience the level of isolation and loneliness that drive them to these sorts of behaviors & experiences. What I’d suggest these things reveal, is not a need for more revulsion or judgement, but of a need for more empathy. What we are witnessing, it seems, are deep emotional, mental and spiritual challenges being responded to in ways we’d term aberrant.
  • Skip Maselli
    skip commented on December 26, 2012 Reply
    I’d totally be into this if I could find one that whispers sweet lies to help me build up a false sense of self-esteem! With sexual confections like this, I no longer have a need for a vivid imagination and my own hand. Thank you “Boys R’ Us”
  • Seth Newfeld
    Seth Newfeld commented on December 28, 2012 Reply
    I’m with Jim. Unless you’ve experienced that kind of loneliness and rejection, possibly humiliation, it’s impossible to know what’s going on inside a mind. Everyone craves a sense of belonging. We need to look inside of ourselves before judging others.
  • Tracy Wisneski
    Tracy Wisneski commented on December 30, 2012 Reply
    I agree with both Jim and Seth (and Skip too, lol). I’ve got no need to judge anyone who isn’t hurting anyone else. Mind you, if I was dating a guy and found that in his house, I’m certain I would excuse myself to the bathroom, then jump out the window and run for my life.
  • Jessica Dillon commented on April 7, 2013 Reply
    It’s not hurting anyone. But I think it’s a symptom of our culture in which unrealistic expectations are set up by the media and porn. Considering this culture we live in, I think both men and women deserve compassion.
  • persephone commented on May 31, 2013 Reply
    Jessica Dillon I totes agree
  • Aj commented on July 28, 2013 Reply
    Cheaper than dating. Check. No rejection. Check. No deception. Check. I don’t want one but I understand.
  • Lisa commented on April 21, 2015 Reply
    Not much give and take with a “doll”. Hope these men can train these pretty young things to take care of them when they get sick with cancer or have a heart attack! Relationships are hard but nothing beats the human touch

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