Six things I’m not sorry about.


Dear Society,

1. I will not apologize for being thin. I am healthy. Why must my health bring you {dis}ease? I’ve watched obesity imprison every single woman in my family. The extra pounds they carry like literal body armor. Their suits protect them from being seen and heard.

I live my life out loud, which brings me to my next point of contention:

2. I will not apologize for pursuing my dreams.

3. I have no interest in rotting behind the drab walls of a cubicle beneath fluorescent lights that buzz emblazoning my brainstem with the image of who I might have been.

4. I am her, or {at the very least} I become more like her each day.

5. I love children, but I’m not ready to have them. And {thankfully} I don’t need your blessing. I’m watching my life flash before my own two eyes, and, at once, it’s incredible and terrifying. It leaves me at once hungry and satiated.

6. So, finally, when I take my seat at the table, I will not pretend and play dumb. I’m as wise as the next {wo}man. I will not dim my light because {for whatever reason} you dim yours.

In fact, I’ll shine ever brighter in the hopes you might begin to see:

your grace
your beauty
{the incredible being everyone else around the table sees}.

And if that makes you uncomfortable, then so what. Let it be.

Sorry, I’m not sorry.

Without apology, this is who I am.

And I will not apologize for living as the badass God put me {and you} on this Earth to be.

{Rebelle on Facebook.}


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Amber Shumake
lives in a suburb of Ft. Worth, TX -- over 20 miles from the nearest yoga studio. Gallivanting throughout the metroplex in her Jeep, she prefers to drive topless. As she rocks out to spiritual podcasts and audio books, she remains always vigilant of the local owl who occasionally lands on her windshield as a reminder to slow down, to seek only Truth. She calls Karmany Yoga, the donation-based studio where she teaches,“home.” Trading one compulsive addiction for another, she currently prefers backbends to drugs, tea to coffee, and Facebook to Twitter. Having recently completed her Masters in Counseling, she unites yoga and therapy, wiping away sweat and tears, connecting people to their beauty -- one empowering arm balance and inversion at a time. A born writer, she encourages others to revise the life stories that no longer serve them. She dreams -- in no particular order -- of marrying her partner, growing a family to play with her Blue “Healer,” writing a book, and changing the world. She’s pretty easy to find in the virtual world on Facebook, Twitter and blog.
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  • Sheena Marie Dressel commented on December 28, 2012 Reply
    I can’t even tell you how much this hits my heart right now Amber. Damn! No apologies; can I just say, “I feel you on this.” As i start to truly live my life out loud, ive upset people, and i continue to baffle them with my, what did my Dad call it, not normal lifestyle. ‘Aunthentic’ I tell him, i prefer authentic. Tons of love your way.
    • Amber Shumake
      ambershumake commented on December 28, 2012 Reply
      Sheena, let’s be authentic and unapologetic together. It begins with each one of us. I think of you often, miss you, and am forever changed for having met you for 27 brief, eye-opening days on the mat.
  • Tanya Lee Markul
    tanya lee markul commented on December 28, 2012 Reply
    On fire and beautiful! YES! Thank you! xoxo
  • Mushk Hoor commented on December 28, 2012 Reply
    loved it, you spoke right through every girl’s hearts who are afraid to talk and say what they really want to say..
  • Tracy Wisneski
    Tracy Wisneski commented on December 30, 2012 Reply
    Badass indeed! Thank you! I’ve been told for a long time to unlearn my habit of apologizing when I shouldn’t.
    • Amber Shumake
      ambershumake commented on December 30, 2012 Reply
      we have a thing we do around the studio, where instead of saying “I’m sorry” {when we bump into each other}, we say, “I’m sexy.” It’s a great way to break the habit and way more entertaining than apologizing for taking up space on the planet. <3
  • Michelle Gillian commented on July 8, 2015 Reply
    Amber! You are beautiful and amazing! Even though I’m 51, this is still so relevant. Never apologize for who we are, we are wild, amazing, sexy, beautiful. Thanks!

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