8 ways to romance clarity in the midst of a cluttered & confusing world.



“I have been and still am a seeker,

but have ceased to question stars and books;

I have begun to listen to the teachings my blood whispers to me.” ~ Hermann Hesse

Meet the unknown. The frightening part. The part that we think we’d rather not step into or consider because it makes our stomachs turn with one part butterflies, one part overwhelmed and two parts nausea.

When you actually must face the unknown, it often feels like hard manual labor, too dirty and sweaty and maybe even so unbearable that you’ve convinced yourself it’s actually easier to swiftly turn around and dive back into the comfort of the familiar because at least you know you can handle that kind of pain.

You already live it every day.

Eat Pray Love

Remaining stagnant  just seems more reasonable than a major life shift, despite the daily weight of your most glorious idealisms attempting to eject life into your tired heart, calling out furiously and begging you to listen. In this chaotic modern world where so many distractions beckon at every turn, many of us have actually forgotten how to listen to ourselves. 

However, without expectation or explanation, sometimes, those what-ifs catch us off guard, and flood us with an ancient wisdom that often reveals itself on some idle weekday afternoon when we are immersed in our dreadful daily routines.

This wisdom is called clarity.

Shocking, dizzying clarity. When it arrives, the secure ceiling will lift, the floors will fall out from underneath your firmly planted feet, and the light will sweep in from somewhere that looks like sky.

Before you can digest it, touch it, or know what is happening, your vision will come in so sharp it will feel as though the entire world is suddenly crystalline, and your eyes can see above and beyond what has been, what is now, and what will be.

Your soul’s passion will pass through your body like a wild flame, igniting your spirit, and rendering you breathless with answers and seemingly unstoppable determination to finally do what you’re meant to do.

And then, just as fleeting as it appeared, the moment will pass, and the flame will evaporate into a lingering trail of smoke, swirling alongside the all-too familiar drizzle of  paralyzing thoughts that begin to quicken with such intensity that soon enough they’re pouring and blending together to morph into one giant and roaring storm of “I cant’s” and “No’s” and “I’m not capable” , “It’s too difficult” and 99 other ridiculous excuses you’ve become so conditioned to produce and drown in.

All at once you find yourself right back to where you started; feeling so drained and far removed from living the seemingly unreachable life you were actually meant to live.

The white light moment of clarity happens to us all, but it’s hard to make it last. Too many of us will dismiss it as another passing, meaningless daydream that slips away from sight before its significance is ever fully realized.

This is now me speaking to you. I am staring unflinchingly into your eyes, human to human, and I’m going to tell you to take slow, deep breaths, trust your moment of clarity, and then go romance the hell out of it because it is one of the most beautiful and true things you will ever come across in your lifetime.

leave the city of your comfort

Imagine your clarity as your soulmate, lover and muse, screaming from the rooftops in order to get to you in any way possible to find yourself again.

It’s a miracle you are here, and with that, you are powerful and worth the extra work because the only thing keeping you from the life you want to live is you and the lies you keep telling yourself as to why you cannot achieve it.


stop acting so small

Now, once it slips out of your grasp, clarity can be an elusive lover. So how do you get it back, and hold it close on a daily basis so you can be in tune with the important small choices you are faced with each day that lead to your vision and purpose?

1. Let go of your own imaginary boundaries you’ve carefully compiled block by block by block until the walls were suddenly too tall to climb, too rigid to push, and too heavy to lift. Break them, astounded by the strength you didn’t realize you possessed.


2. Dissolve the paranoia that stiffens the movement of your precious, aching joints until they can once again find the very beat it takes to continue dancing.


3. Release the linear parts of the mind that poison you with worries; worries that weigh down your head and spine and hips to the point of exhaustion from leading a dreadfully predictable life that feels as though it’s becoming a tortuously slow erosion of emptiness with each passing year.


4. This one is brought to you by the lovely Anaïs Nin:  

“To change skins, and evolve into new cycles, I feel one has to learn to discard. If one changes internally, one should not continue to live with the same objects. They reflect one’s mind and the psyche of yesterday. I throw away what has no dynamic, living use.”

Discard all forms of clutter such as toxic people and meaningless attachments that regularly fog your path. Remember if you’ve been trying to fill that void with external “stuff,” now is the time to let it all go.


5. Refuse to be that person that, like so many others is still driving down the same road, years down the line, desperately seeking to go back in time to be given just one more chance to take the road that they know they should have taken. This is your chance; so take the road now.


6. Let go of the idea that the pain of change is greater than the pain of remaining the same, because honey, this is life and life is painful, so things are gonna hurt no matter what road you choose. Dive headfirst into the unknown and change something.


7. Practice yoga in your free time. Go for long meditative walks, then go home and fuel your body with vibrant, colorful, nourishing foods. Then sit and feel the energy of health rush through your veins.

Staying healthy is not as difficult as you think, and once your body realizes how wonderful these new ways of loving yourself feel, I promise you, it will begin to crave them daily.


8. Become unhinged, unglued, and undone. Learn how be connected to the universe, freed from the chains you had created, and have courage.


Dan Brown


Once you reunite with your clarity, let it lubricate your parched soul, be the wave you want to glide on and the energy you give your body to. Allow it be the friend you become powerfully fearless with and the very medicine you need to dissolve your empty parts. Let it halt your restless yearning and lead your beautiful heart.

This  clarity will help you release your passion into the world and once again pour vibrant color into your sepia toned life. Awaken and have trust for breakfast every single day as you allow yourself to be driven by the magnificent force of that one gorgeous dream that keeps returning.

It will not lead you astray.


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{Your heart already knows.}

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Victoria Erickson
Victoria is a grounded idealist who's been writing the world awake since she was a child, as she was born starry eyed, and eating poetry. Based in Austin TX, she splits her time between writing for herself and others, working as a freelance writer, creative coach and editor for businesses, and also sharing her passion for fierce wellness as a Reiki practicioner, massage therapist, and esthetician. Above all else, she believes in innate wildness, intuitive body intelligence, the power of sensitivity, the connection economy, and this immensely gorgeous planet we all inhabit. You can book a healing appointment with her (she specializes in Reiki & deep neck-work) or simply connect with her and her musings and offerings on Facebook, FB writer's page, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest. You can also sign up for her Wild and Well Creative Notes for Wondrous and Inspired Living.


  • Mamaste
    mamastenycmamaste commented on March 4, 2013 Reply
    Often your deepest fear is exactly what fuels your strength. Yes, Victoria, your list is a keeper. ~Mamaste
  • Jennifer Yell commented on March 4, 2013 Reply
    You’ve just written everything that is in my heart right now. Thank you.
  • Rebecca commented on March 4, 2013 Reply
    beautiful, wonderful, yes!
  • Sheila Jaillet
    Sheila Jaillet commented on March 5, 2013 Reply
    “allow yourself to be driven by the magnificent force of that one gorgeous dream that keeps returning…it will not lead you astray”, a wonderful and true read <3
  • Ramanjit Garewal
    Ramanjit Garewal commented on March 6, 2013 Reply
    Dear Victoria …:-) Wonderfully put … Beautifully written … Smash the Societal condtioning … Free Yourself … Be the Dance … Be the Wind … Love it … Love … :-)
  • Jeanette commented on March 18, 2013 Reply
    yes. so needed this today.
  • Jim Fry
    Jim Fry commented on March 19, 2013 Reply
    Victoria, you have perfectly nailed, the poetry of life, lived.
  • Emily commented on May 7, 2013 Reply
    Thank you so much for this! I came across this article as well as your sensitive souls piece and resonated with them both immediately and so deeply. Your writing is beautiful and I’m really grateful for it
  • gipsydragonfly commented on May 8, 2013 Reply
    perfection .
  • gem commented on July 13, 2013 Reply
    Capturing that which is almost impossible for most to put into words is something special. Thank you!
  • Cate A. Neilson commented on August 16, 2013 Reply
    Beautiful and wonderfully wise. Thank you.
  • Ieva commented on August 19, 2013 Reply
    Thank you…it is like a hug for a heart, light for Soul and clear blue skies for mind – to let it be and let oneself to be love in love. Thank you!
    • Victoria Erickson
      Victoria Erickson commented on August 20, 2013 Reply
      Ieva, thank you for this sweet comment! Love and light. <3
  • Laurie commented on October 15, 2013 Reply
    So Freakin’ GOOD!! Bless You!!
  • Pacha Lila commented on October 15, 2013 Reply
    Wow! It’s like you’re talking to me as if you knew exactly what I am going thu right now.. So grateful for you! Please never stop writing! Perfection! You’re such an inspiration and you’re one of the reasons why I am so addicted to this Blog. Thank you!
  • Monika commented on October 15, 2013 Reply
  • Linda commented on November 25, 2013 Reply
    Simply beautiful. Thank you for so eloquently expressing my deep, dark, hidden angst and for helping me to realize that I am not alone.
  • Cameron Shayne commented on December 24, 2013 Reply
    lovely :)
  • Tracy commented on January 3, 2014 Reply
    Thank you, thank you, thank you! The walls are still tumbling, and I am learning better how to navigate.
    • Victoria Erickson
      Victoria Erickson commented on January 6, 2014 Reply
      Thank you Tracy <3 May you continue breaking walls and learning :)
  • Mellie commented on February 13, 2015 Reply
    Thanks for cobnnitutirg. It’s helped me understand the issues.
  • sildenafil commented on March 25, 2015 Reply
    What’s it take to become a sublime expounder of prose like yourself?
  • eniola commented on April 11, 2015 Reply
    Indescribably beautiful
  • Andrea commented on August 1, 2015 Reply
    Love this list! This is just what I needed to read today. Thank you :) <3

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