The Art of Stress-Free Living: How to do what you want to do.
After marveling at the statue of David, the Pope asked the sculptor, “How do you know what to cut away?”
Michelangelo’s reply? “It’s simple. I just remove everything that doesn’t look like David.”
Inner beauty is revealed, not created…
When you think of being totally engrossed in your favorite activity, are you thinking of life’s problems and worries? Probably not, eh?
For me, being in the ocean, surfing its beautiful waves, is a time where life’s issues seem to be in a different universe. No matter what happened at work, or in my relationships, I am in a different world when I am surfing. A world where my whole being is in ‘the zone,’ perfectly aligned with my real, natural ‘me.’
If I had to define ‘me,’ it is that which would mostly match my preferences and values. Some find their ‘me’ in their expression of sex, dance, yoga, computer programming, being in the outdoors, you name it — whatever rocks your world. Whatever makes your essence dance, laugh, and shine.
And why is it, that in life, at times, we are so disconnected from this natural contentment and well-being?
I do not think we experience such innate joy simply because we are so engrossed in our favourite activity that we temporarily forget life’s challenges. I think there is more to it than that.
I think that there is happiness in the freedom of being you, and that when you are not radiating your natural essence, you experience a degree of discomfort. I also think the extent of your discomfort matches the extent of the mismatch between your natural preferences and your circumstances.
When, in your work role, you experience stress, you may find that something in this working environment, something that you are doing, is out of sync with your natural preferences. So, naturally we experience a level of stress to warn ourselves that we are out of sync.
Obviously, we may encounter circumstances in life that we do not prefer.
The art of stress-free living is to know your natural preferences, and to make the most of what you are doing, subject to the boundaries of your circumstances.
Knowing your natural preferences, something I call your Natural Self, is a perfect tool to design your life roles to match what makes you tick.
Who you are, and what you do, are not the same. Express your doing from your being, and you will enjoy what you do. This equals happiness. Do this consistently, over a long enough period of time, and you will do what you want to do. This equals freedom. Your natural essence is your inner beauty. Let it shine. Your light is unique, and without it the world is a darker place.
Remove those cloaks of habitual identity and carve out your natural inner beauty.
Bring your ‘Statue of David’ into everything you do, because you are a masterpiece that the world loves to admire.
Latest posts by Bartholomeus Nicolaas Engelbertus (see all)
- Open-Mindedness: A 4-Step Checklist. - January 10, 2014
- Something is missing, Someone is found: In Search of the Natural Self. - November 15, 2013
- Nothing Happens for a Reason. — Why assigning meaning to randomness is backwards. - October 11, 2013
- So, Yes, Stress Is Good. - October 2, 2013
- How to get out of your own way? Stop judging yourself. - August 28, 2013
- The Art of Stress-Free Living: How to do what you want to do. - August 21, 2013