Renewing Love & Intimacy In The Creative Realm: Wait Not One Second Longer.
Wait not one second longer before the ember goes out.
You are running out of time and no other lover will come to your rescue, stand by your side, and privy you to unconditional love. This is your love affair with the everyday unkempt, smelly, habit ridden magic that you once cried for. You may not have considered the inevitable lull during its explosive beginnings, but now its reality is evident in the perceived lukewarm love served over easy.
Oxygenate the tired embers that still glow even if you choose not to notice their haunting smolder. This is the call to arms, lips, hands and hearts to re-awaken the love that you once hungered for. Are you really going to let boredom rob you of what’s yours?
In the beginning there was heat. The heat emanated from your hearts and sacred organs for body worship. Poems, sonnets and songs radiated from sanguine lips as you danced on the cloud of newness. Your love was a birthing star. You tasted the nectar of the gods with each delicate act of love. You chased time with your all-night rendezvous lasting for what seemed to be only a moment.
The love that you have with your partner is rare and its uniqueness created a new wrinkle in space-time. You both stand as the only prototypes of your art with your love as the medium. You awaken to a blank canvas and an unwritten song every morning.
Your routines are the symphonies of connection. Your lover’s melody to you is in his unwavering presence and her devotion that has become second nature. Can you see the magic of love? Can you taste its salty-sweet nectar?
As a relationship matures, the decent of waning moonlight can become disappointing to a romantic. It is a time when lives merge and every day life sets in. This is just as explosive as the physical bonding that takes place, but it is subtly present in the alchemical changes that are manifesting as you both step into a new world together.
A common misconception is that the intimate magician within you and your lover must make way for the still waters of stability.
Do not give into believing the lies that love is always romantic, orgasms are always easy, and that problems are solved at the end of a twenty-two minute segment after an orange juice commercial. This is real life.
Love is gritty, vulnerable with ugly messy cries and sweaty nights of passion. It is the teamwork of financial problem solving and child rearing. It is the hand-holding even when you think your partner is wrong as it is you being held when you are devilishly hateful. Life is most exciting without the comfort of a safety net.
Love is the other-worldly tandem trapeze act that is your greatest art form even if it looks like flannel pajama bottoms and tousled hair. Life has its rhythms. People grow, revert, change ideas and evolve. As this symphony unfolds, you may find a pensive or inattentive mate by your side. Love making may become routine, or functional. Does this mean that the intimacy is gone?
If you hold lofty expectations over your lover’s head, things will implode.
Expectations are necessary but can sometimes get in the way of deep intimacy with you and your mate.
It is time for you to connect to the daredevil within to forgive past resentments and release the enslavement of expectations. Live beyond defense mechanisms, past lovers and temporal shifts of one-night stands. Trust the process of your life and zoom right over the edge of the cliff onto the other side of vulnerable, tenderly soft-hearted truth.
This is the love that makes you remember why his eyes can speak to you without the movement of his mouth, and how that little spot under her nose is the most comforting vision you have ever experienced. There are still hidden treasures that you are meant to discover.
Give gratitude to all that your lover does and attempts to do. This exchange will create so much prosperity, it will not be able to be contained in your hearts or even your home. With such a palpable energy, you can change the state of non-functioning aspects of your relationship and inspire others around you to do the same.
Yes we can change the whole world with an act of love.
This love is yours and you deserve it. It is the only language only you two will ever know. It is your secret, exclusive union behind the velvet rope of the creator realm. The power of the universe emanates from within you at the exact same frequency as the love of your life.
Comparing such a treasure to the watered-down version of life that is emulated through your perception of other people’s happiness is the greatest disservice to the universe’s untempered expression through you. Live through your own brand of love. Love yourself.
Become better at loving through your own lessons learned, and wrap your arms and legs around the reality that love is work with explosively pleasurable results.
Anjana Love Dixon is a Spiritual Thought Leader, Interfaith Minister, Psychologist, and holds a doctorate in divinity. In 2012 Anjana launched The Anjana Network, the home base of her wisdom writings. It is from this place that she delivers deeply personal reflections of her journey to wholeness, inspires change, and provokes thought. Through sharing influential insights through interviews, articles, and her unique connection to the world, Anjana has become an internationally renowned wisdom writer and cited spiritual thought leader with contributions to major online publications including Rebelle Society, Elephant Journal, Match.com, and HuffPost Live. Anjana is a member of The Beautiful Writer’s Group with Danielle LaPorte and Linda Sivertsen and is currently preparing for the launch of her second book, Start in The Dark: Soul Work for Opening the Heart and Creating a (Real) Life.