A Perfect New Year’s Resolution: Be As You Are.
By Dominique Youkhehpaz.
This month, thousands — perhaps millions — of people are preparing to greet the New Year with a promise.
More exercise, less sugar.
More money, less depression.
More happiness, less weight.
Welcome to the New Year’s Resolution — a dangerous river rapid pulling us into the collective belief that we are not enough just as we are.
That our deepest yearning for love, for health, and for happiness is available at some undetermined point in the future. And that our worthiness for love, health, and happiness is conditional and depends on whether or not we fulfill our future promises.
Ride your New Year’s Resolution to its source and see what you find. Those desires for perfection, self-improvement, and happiness all go deeper. They touch upon our deepest yearning for total love, total union — God or Truth or utter peace.
It is a paradox: the desire to grow and simultaneously accept ourselves just as we are. We yearn to be more than who we are, something greater than the small, limited self we see in the mirror. And yet, we know the voice of perfection lies right here in this moment.
The voice of happiness and love cannot be found anywhere but right here, in the sweetness of your inhale.
How is this for a New Year’s Resolution? Be as you are.
Simply practice whatever it is that reminds you of your wholeness. Remember that you are, indeed, part of a greater whole that transcends and includes your personality — you belong to all of life, to the very love and wisdom that birthed you into being from a mere sperm and egg.
You are already whole, and the New Year is ready to greet you exactly as you are.
Shed your resolutions, illusions, and solutions, and birth the clear seeing that knows you have already arrived in love. Feel the all-embracing blanket of air surrounding you, always holding you. Know that you are being kissed by the sun each and every day, rain or shine.
From this place of wholeness, you may proceed to eat less sugar, speak more honestly, and honor your body with movement and exercise. But these resolutions come from your wholeness — not in order to prove it.
Love does not depend on your resolutions, and so they become trivial, playful details as you live your life connected to the truth of who you are: everything.
You are both a thread in the tapestry of life, and the tapestry itself.
You are perfect, yet ever-growing, and changing with the turning of the wind and tides.
Dominique Youkhehpaz is the founder of Self-Marriage Ceremonies, a pathway of committing to what matters most to you, honoring the wisdom of your innocent heart and living love, for real. In March, she is facilitating an online program called Self-Marriage Unveiled for women who feel called to marry themselves in a 10-Week journey. To find out more, visit her website.