To The Girls Whose Hearts Are Too Big For This World.
“Love can sometimes be magic. But magic can sometimes just be an illusion.” ~ Javan
This is an open letter to all the girls who have ever felt like they had so much love to give, but no one to give it to.
To all those who sometimes feel so passionate about something they feel as though their heart is about to beat right out of their chest. For everyone who has ever felt contained by this world, or someone in it. Let go. Be bold and be beautiful. Live intentionally.
It is better to have a heart which is larger than life and ask life to expand, than to try to cage the only thing worth living for. Be proud in all that you love. Love fiercely, but remember the things which are worthy of your heart. It is a precious gift, which the larger its size, it seems, the easier it is for people to unwittingly take.
When you’re handing out pieces of your heart, don’t forget yourself.
One of the most beautiful love affairs each of us is capable of is the one we get to have with our self. Some of us are givers. We are intoxicated by the gratification of sourcing another’s happiness; by loving others so relentlessly, all of their sadness seems to melt away.
You have an insatiable need to help people, and a soul with a sensitivity immune to any logic against it. Sometimes you give so much though, that there is nothing left for yourself — nothing left for you to recharge on. You have to take the time to love yourself. And not just casually, but wholeheartedly.
Do what you thought you couldn’t do. Be who you always wanted to be. Stop being afraid to love yourself and love your life. If you are truly happy, it will be that much easier to bring happiness to others. Give a piece of your heart to yourself and its size will grow tenfold — you will have even more of it to spend on others.
There is no shame in being selfish every once in a while. Sometimes we have to be in order to determine how we best fit into the world. Take a break from watering everyone else’s spiritual garden, and take the time to cultivate the spirit within yourself. You might discover the most beautiful blossoms and become enchanted by their aroma.
Love yourself. Love yourself. Love yourself. Loving others will easily follow.
Don’t forget your solo… your heart has a beautiful beat. Dance to it.
You have beautiful things to offer the world, and a destiny full of surprises. Why do you insist on sharing the spotlight of your life when you are so clearly made to shine? Your talents and beauty ought to be shared with the world — you ought to be celebrated. So why do you forget your solo in your tireless pursuit of a duet?
You want so badly to share the stage with someone that you are slowly denying yourself the opportunity to shine alone. You see, love is not an effort to find someone who completes your duet. You must be complete on your own. Your strength ought to be derived from within, therefore you may always find it.
Do not rely on another to make you feel worthy of applause, you are perfectly capable of achieving standing ovations on your own! You may share the stage with a partner, but please let it be as equals. Don’t deny yourself the beauty of enriching the person that you are and allowing others to see the originality of your extraordinary soul.
Love is not about finding the perfect duet. It’s finding another solo which complements yours perfectly. It’s finding another solo which you could watch in awe a million times and still want to watch it again.
It’s performing your solo and knowing, without a doubt, every time, you’ll look into the audience and see love in the eyes of the first person standing in applause. It’s performing together with an individuality that seamlessly flows into an entirely new masterpiece, but you know this one isn’t meant for the stage.
You know that no one else could appreciate its beauty like the two of you, but you don’t mind. Because the affection and awe you feel toward it is more than enough. You know it doesn’t need to be in the spotlight. This performance is far too precious to be subject to that kind of scrutiny. So remember your solo and revel in the spotlight.
Leave your duet for the passion of the shadows.
Don’t fall for the guy who calls you pretty.
Please don’t mistake me, of course the man who loves you will think you are pretty. But anyone can say beautiful things. It takes much more for someone to make you feel pretty. I want you to wait. I know this can be hard — everyone wants to feel wanted, and everyone wants to be loved. But you are different.
You have a huge heart with so much love and an insatiable need to give it. You give love so freely and it is so beautiful. But it leaves you broken when it is rejected, when it is returned to you, not wrapped up all shiny and brand new, but tattered in the old box it came in.
You thought this time would be different, that he actually meant it when he said forever. But what you forgot is that it started the same. You didn’t wait for the spark. You invented it.
He whispered pretty lies to you and you wanted to believe them, you wanted to believe the flutters in your stomach were butterflies — anticipating an exciting future — not nerves remembering repetitions of a disappointing past. But please don’t blame yourself. The big brown eyes and crooked smiles get the best of us; you can still win.
Choose to play a different card, my darling, walk a different path. Love is not a race. My goodness, what would be left to do when you got to the finish line? Love is a journey which knows no bounds. She doesn’t play by the rules, and she certainly doesn’t submit to Father Time. Be patient.
Wait for a love that ignites an endless burning deep within your soul — a fire only sparked by one special individual, seemingly designed especially for you. Wait for the burn worth enduring — because love burns, let there be no mistake. It isn’t supposed to be easy.
Every good journey has obstacles, and every protagonist comes out better in the end because of it. If you like him because he calls you pretty, or because he makes you forget about the sadness in your life, he’s not the one. That’s not a fire. That’s convenient. Don’t be a coward when it comes to love.
Don’t settle for what’s easy for fear that no one else will come along. Go boldly into the unknown. Keep your eyes and heart open — you never know when a fire will catch.
Hearts are not meant to live life unscathed. Those of us with enormous hearts know that we leave a piece of them behind everywhere we go. They cannot be contained and they cannot be protected. But that doesn’t mean they ought to be taken for granted. You have the power to choose who and what is privileged with a piece of your heart.
Be not afraid to love, rather place greater value on the love you have to give. Know your worth and recognize the power within your soul.
You are a magnificent being, carrying life’s most precious vessel. Big hearts are not easy to come by. Wield yours purposefully an watch illusion turn to magic.
Becca Allen is a passion enthusiast, who believes that everyone has something special to add to the world, but not enough people have the courage to pursue it. She soars freely through the life she owns heart-first. She has a Bachelor of Science in Biology and is pursuing her Masters in Art Therapy. Over the past few years she has been walking a path of self-discovery and uninhibited expression in an attempt to live a more authentic life. She celebrates life and shames no emotion. Becca encourages others to dream big and to never be afraid to be who they truly are. She is an artist, of paint and of words, intoxicated by inspiration and the hopes of inspiring others.