Unfaithfully Yours: Get To Your Own Truth.
When we get it bad for someone, and the feeling isn’t deliciously equal, we become every obvious cliché in the book, and it is such a waste.
Driven to stupidity by romantic desire is dangerous, and can cost us our pride.
Please remember that we — you and I — are far better than begging to be seen, or begging for any form of attention.
We try to play it cool, play it down, or we play it relentlessly and end up acting the fool when love is twisted, and how soon we forget that none of that matters. Any show we put on won’t fly — there is too much gravity holding us down, and nothing makes sense, especially when we are in that kind of pitiful domain.
We expect to be touched in some manner — mentally and physically — but it is ridiculous to expect anything from the untouchable, yet we do. We expect them to understand and to comfort us; we expect them to heal our wounds, but they don’t, and those expectations will always devour any sensibility we own.
And as the relationship curves to fit an unresolved moment, the undulation and softness of the words used to soothe a nasty situation end up in being a façade that will eventually cut like a knife. So be aware of the golden tongue, hone in on that blade. Beware, because the satin in their words can do great damage.
When the caution flag is waving, it is time to slow down. The best thing we can do is to bathe in some self-love, and by settling into the warmth of our knowing, we can wash their aroma off our skin. Even though it feels as if they have gotten far deeper than just a surface perfume, stand tall — that is our sense of smell going into overdrive.
It is important to get to our truth, so their truth won’t get us down.
No amount of persuasion to stay is worth the negative energy — cut the ties and your losses. Who wants to be with a man/woman who doesn’t want them back? There is not one ounce of logic in that. Cry it out, carry on, and remember this:
“Forget it enough to get over it, and remember it enough so it doesn’t happen again.” ~ Unknown
There is absolutely no dignity in drama — it hangs heavy in the heart with rarely an ounce of grace. Pick up your broken ego, hold it like it is your best friend (it is) and take the lesson well-learned to a higher level.
If you have been with someone who cheats, it means something is wrong, desperately wrong, but it isn’t in our realm of conscious duty to make it right — don’t hang that sh*t off your shoulders.
Then, as if by magic, we regain our lucid self-esteem through the power invested in love — love lost, lost in translation, and we get to sing our favorite songs again without the pain of a searing flame scalding our integrity.
Heads up… Rise above. The world keeps on keeping on, we are better for it and we will have a much keener eye on anyone with a roving eye, or a broken one. We will also know immediately that they don’t have it bad for us.
Debbie Lynn is a mother, grandmother, artist, writer, dancer, yogi, rock climber, rock collector, and has been known to run with scissors. She is now sailing the West Indies with her husband on Indigo, their catamaran. She realized at a very young age that the outer reality was a far cry from her inner truth, and meeting her inner wisdom head on always turned into a challenge. The wonderment, curiosity and hypocrisy of life led to exploration and a cumulative documentation (art and journaling) of what she lovingly calls ‘the purge’. It is her way of ridding any negative energy from the daily grind. She says, “In essence, it is a way to start fresh and cleanse the soul.” Debbie has had numerous articles published in The Tattooed Buddha, Elephant Journal, The Edge Magazine, Sail Magazine, Multihulls Magazine and Simple Steps Real Life Magazine. Her daily posts can be found on Facebook.