Full-Body Orgasms: the Ins and Outs of Tantric Multiplicity for Men.
Male multiple orgasm sounds like a myth, in a world where one in three women struggles to orgasm at all, let alone have multiple orgasms. And a world where men have an orgasm, ejaculate, and only sometimes, if they have enough energy, recover enough to get an erection again within 20 minutes or so.
Male multiple orgasm happens in a completely different world from the standard sexuality we learn about in sex education classes. Tantric and Taoist texts have revealed the secrets of the ancient spiritual masters, who learned how to accomplish male multiple orgasm.
The reason male multiple orgasm seems so out there is because to reach multiple orgasms, men need to learn to orgasm without ejaculating.
What is male multiple orgasm?
When a man experiences sexual stimulation over a long period of time, and manages to prevent himself from tipping over into ejaculation, he starts to experience full-body orgasm.
Unlike an ejaculatory orgasm, which is centered in the genital region, the non-ejaculatory orgasm can be felt in many different parts of the body. For example, this description of a full-body orgasm comes from a man practicing traditional Tantra:
Physically, I feel goosebumps all over my body… It’s as if the energy becomes too great to be contained within. Thus I also sometimes pour sweat for a few minutes, but this is not normal sweat — it’s the sweat glands open 100 percent, literally pouring. And I notice that the sound of my breathing changes to something almost animalistic. These effects are accompanied by involuntary tremors.
At some point I lose the sense of time and space, or who I am. When there’s a very special connection with the woman I’m making love with, I sense a whirling sensation. I feel expansion, a continuous movement in endless space. There were a few times I felt this joy of being, this universal love that surrounds me, that feeling that I felt only a few times in deep meditation. And it brought tears to my eyes.
Every man will have a different experience, so don’t get hung up on the details of this description. Just note that it is not only possible, it is extremely pleasurable.
How is it even possible to orgasm without ejaculating?
The male orgasm is a result of certain brain activity, while the ejaculation is a reflex, triggered from the base of the spine. Generally, if a man hasn’t made any efforts to control his sexual system, the two happen close together in time. They are, however, completely independent processes, and can be completely separated.
But ejaculation feels so good. How could not ejaculating possibly compare?
It is hard to imagine, before you have had the experience. All I can tell you is that out of all the men I know who have learned to separate ejaculation from orgasm, not one of them prefers the ordinary orgasm any longer. Every single one prefers the full-body orgasm.
And remember, once you have access to the full-body orgasm, you also have access to the male multiple orgasm. There is no letdown after a full-body orgasm. You can just roll on into another, and another, and another.
Men report having orgasm after orgasm for 30 minutes, 40 minutes, and even longer.
A brief few seconds of ejaculatory orgasm just can’t compare!
Okay, I believe you. How do I achieve this male multiple orgasm?
1. Make a strong commitment.
The neural pathways for ejaculatory orgasm are really well-developed. They are the autobahns of neural connection. Unless you really commit to a new way, you will find yourself falling back into your old patterns every time.
Find a good reason — spiritual or personal growth, improving relationships, becoming a legendary sex god (hint: women love a man who can last more than a few minutes in bed) — anything that motivates you enough to do something a bit challenging.
2. Get support.
If you have a lover, they need to understand what you are up to, and be on board with it. You might need to suddenly ask them to hold still, for example, if you are getting dangerously close to tipping over. Find online information and men’s groups, so you can hear from experienced men. You can even find online courses in how to master your ejaculation.
You can also find information about supporting practices, such as Yoga asanas to relieve blue balls, and other Taoist and Tantric techniques for preventing the sexual energy from triggering ejaculation.
3. Practice, practice, practice.
There is no substitute for practice!
The most effective way to practice in the beginning is to practice on your own. You have total control over the stimulation, and you don’t need to worry about anyone else’s needs or feelings. Explore the sensations as you get close to ejaculation, and isolate the muscles you use to stop it. They are the same ones you use to stop peeing midway.
As you get more confident in your knowledge and control, you can begin practicing with a partner.
Your body will kick in your sympathetic nervous system — the fight-or-flight, busy-feeling, buzzy, million-miles-an-hour feeling — when it wants to trigger ejaculation.
If you can remain calm, ejaculation will simply be impossible.
Of course, it takes some training to remain calm in the midst of sexual intercourse!
The state you are aiming for is like the state of martial arts masters — still acting, but acting from a place of complete calm and relaxation. Once you learn how to enter this state, you will be able to make love for hours, experience full-body orgasms and male multiple orgasm, and fulfill your partner’s deepest sexual needs.
Jenny Hale has an Honors Degree in Psychology, and had a successful career in academia, consulting, and executive coaching, before leaving the corporate world to pursue her passion — empowering people in non-traditional relationships. She has over 15 years of experience building community in polyamorous, D/s, and sacred sexuality communities, and providing support to people to negotiate the relationship structures that serve their highest selves. She runs discussion groups, workshops, and one-on-one sessions, focusing on relationships as a pathway for personal and spiritual growth. Read more of Jenny’s articles on Omooni.