You Were Born for Pleasure.
You were born for pleasure. Don’t let anyone try to tell you otherwise. Sex isn’t sin. Desire isn’t the Devil.
Your body was built for pleasure. Period. And it’s a natural instinct to seek it.
As a child, you may have been curious. Sexually curious. And innocent. You didn’t know there was anything wrong with touching yourself or pleasuring yourself, until somebody told you not to. Until you were scolded or punished or somehow shamed into sexual repression. But listen to me, dear one, as the adult that you are now, and as that child you were: it’s not wrong. It’s natural. It’s healthy.
It’s part of knowing and loving yourself.
Sex is what brought you into this world. A pleasure-filled act of creation is what created you. Or at least it’s meant to be full of pleasure. Unfortunately, many women don’t experience much pleasure at all, even if they put on a show to make you think so.
And many men, while they might experience great physical pleasure and cum to their heart’s content, are also tortured by shame and guilt associated with sex. Or they’ve been so desensitized by porn-induced masturbation and sex that they have a warped perception of what sex should be. Many men can’t even experience the full extent of pleasure for which they yearn.
But that can change. You don’t have to settle. You don’t have to suffer. You don’t have to pretend. You can, instead, reclaim your birthright. You can declare yourself a sexual being capable, and worthy of, as much pleasure as you imagine. More than you can imagine. And nobody other than you gets to define what’s true, in terms of what that looks like and feels like.
Perhaps optimal pleasure for you is just knowing that you are free to delight in your delight. Perhaps it’s a smile instead of a squirt. Perhaps it’s the smell of dinner on the stove or the feel of letting your skin be tickled by the breeze, and letting that arouse you. Guilt-free. Shame-free.
I want you to embrace your sexual nature, and to see that pleasure is not limited to the bedroom or to sex with a partner.
Why do I want this for you? Because I want to live in a world that is full of people who are more embodied and less inhibited. I want to live in a world where we talk just as freely about sex as we do about the weather. I want to live in a world with less depression and less anxiety. I want to live in a world where I see more people smiling as I walk down the street.
Granted, I live in Seattle, which is known for less smiles per mile. But I don’t believe we need more sunshine or sunlamps.
I believe what we need, regardless of the weather wherever you live, is sexual liberation. Sexual expression. Sexual pleasure. And that doesn’t necessarily mean having more sex. Although, by all means, please do, if that’s what floats your boat. Yes, please do. More sex for everyone, if that’s what you want. It’s not a requirement though.
You can be asexual, celibate, or just simply single and still claim your right to experience all the pleasure you were born to have. And that can come in so many forms. Although senses and sensuality have a lot to do with it, pleasure can also be considered an inside job.
As I sit here at my desk writing this, I ask myself if that’s true. I pause. Look outside. Breathe in the view. Breathing all the way down into my breasts. Into my nipples. I feel pleasure. Yes, I do. And nobody is touching me. I’m not touching myself. It’s just my mind, and my breath.
This is what I want for you. I want you to be able to, in any moment you choose, tap into your sexual energy and that pleasure that is your divine birthright regardless of where you are, what you’re doing, or who you’re with. It’s always there, within your reach. If you want it, you can have it. You’re not going to get in trouble for allowing more pleasure into your life. You’re not going to hell.
Pleasure-seeking may be an escape or Band-Aid approach at times, but when consciously pursued, when consciously invited and allowed into your life, pleasure can be a path towards liberation and living a healthy, happy life.
Rebecca Clio Gould is a certified Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, Sexual Awakening for Women facilitator, Qigong and Meditation teacher, and Author of The Multi-Orgasmic Diet: Embrace Your Sexual Energy and Awaken Your Senses for a Healthier, Happier, Sexier You. Her commitment to spreading love and light is evident in the work she does helping others learn how to live happier, healthier, juicier lives. She is known to be a ‘possibility realist’ who offers uplifting spiritual guidance while being grounded in reality. Rebecca claims to have mastered Savasana, and loves dancing and singing in her car. You can learn more about her by visiting her website.