Who Would You Be If You Knew You Couldn’t Fail?
A while ago, I posed a question on my Facebook page where I asked, “If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would your life be like?” I received some very interesting responses.
Some stated that they would take more risks. Others said they would go for their dreams, pursue their passions. It had me thinking that the words fail and failure are just as impeding to our lives as the word fear. But what if you couldn’t fail? And just what does fail mean anyway?
Dictionary.com defines fail as “to fall short of success or achievement in something expected, attempted, desired, or approved.” Failure is defined as “nonperformance of something due, required, or expected.” These definitions feel negative and self-defeating to me. Shouldn’t the fact that an attempt was made at something be the cause for celebration?
Yes, I know, Yoda is in my head saying “Do or do not, there is no try.” But if we hold the belief that in all experiences there is a positive to be had, then doesn’t it make sense that when we try to accomplish something, the act of stepping up in and of itself is the positive to be had? I think so. So, let’s look at the concept of fail/failure again.
If we hold on to the belief that there is a positive to be gained in all experiences, then we cannot fail! When you view your life experience looking for the positive aspects in all things, then every experience is a success because you’ve discovered something you didn’t know before, or you found something to be thankful for that you may not have realized. There is a gift in the experience. Here’s an example:
You want to attract a loving relationship into your life experience. You define what it is you want in a partner and visualize what it feels like to have that in your life.
An opportunity to go to a speed dating event appears before you so you act on it, even though it’s something you’ve never done before and a little out of your comfort zone. The event does not go the way you had hoped and you don’t meet your Mr./Ms. Right.
However, in attending this event, you met many different men/women, which allowed you to further define the qualities and characteristics of the type of man/woman you do want in your life. This enabled you to clarify your desire. In addition, you discovered that while this type of event was out of your comfort zone, you did enjoy yourself. Would you call this a failure or a success?
If you approach life with a positive attitude, this event was a success because you were able to get clearer on the type of person you want and you learned that you could have a good time in a strange social situation. It’s all in perspective. Look for the positive aspects in all things and you take failure out of the equation! When you take failure out of the equation, then it’s not an option in your life.
Imagine that for a moment: going through life knowing that you cannot fail because you choose to see the positive aspects in all experiences. You choose to see with your Goddess Eyes. Doesn’t that feel good? When you choose to see the positive aspects, you never fall short of success or achievement because every experience is a success or achievement.
Nonperformance transforms into performance for the simple fact that you did something and learned something in the process. And as you learn and grow, you gain more confidence and self-assurance. Who you would be changes as you grow! So, now that you know you cannot fail, what will your life be like? How will you choose to be in the world?
Call to Action
Your assignment is to look back on all the items in your life that you or someone else labeled as a failure, and search for the positive aspects. Define what you learned about yourself or others. Did the experience help you to further clarify your desires or spark a new desire within you? Was the experience a step outside your comfort zone thereby causing you to stretch and grow? Who were you be-ing?
Write it all down, and then look at all the positive aspects for which you can show gratitude and appreciation. Notice the shifts in how you showed up and who you chose to be. Notice how you are feeling as you gaze at all the positive aspects. Is there warmth in your heart center? Do you feel a sense of pride and accomplishment? Feels good, doesn’t it?
Elaine Torrance-Gingrich is an Ordained Minister, Certified Coach, and Clinical Hypnotherapist. Known as the Goddess of Laughter and Possibilities, her passion is to empower sensitive women to remember who they are and the magic they possess, stand in their authenticity and Divine Feminine energies, use their voice and speak their truth, and fall unapologetically back in love with themselves so they can live the life they came here to live. You could contact Elaine via her website, Twitter, Instagram or Facebook.