Empaths, Stop Letting Emotions Overwhelm You and Be Happy.
Do you know what it is like to be sensitive to everything?
As an empath, my five senses can be in overdrive. Years ago, when I learned I was an empath, I was in complete overwhelm. Everything became a chore. My emotions ping-ponged all over the place. One second I was happy, the next depressed, the next full of anxiety, or tears would roll down my face as I sobbed uncontrollably.
Nothing made sense to me. When someone asked me what was wrong, the truth was I had no idea. It didn’t make any sense what was going on. However, as the feelings washed over me, I would create a story in my mind to make sense of the current feeling. I was on the roller coaster ride from hell.
My five senses wanted to shut down. Who am I kidding? I was done, and prayed the men in white coats didn’t arrive at my doorstep. There were times I really thought I was losing my mind, my touch on reality. I had no idea there were so many sensitive people out there just like me.
If I was tired, any type of loudness or yelling made me want to hide.
Bright lights made me want to wear sunglasses.
Smells that are too strong would make my stomach revolt. Smells such as perfumes, colognes or food would cause an instant reaction.
Can you eat something and feel the emotions of the person making it?
Touching other people’s items can almost drop you to your knees with emotions running through you.
Thinking that hiding in my house would help had just the opposite feeling. As an empath, the four walls of your home cannot stop the emotions from being felt. Emotions are energy in motion, always moving.
I was so tired, and felt like I was cursed. Would this ever end? I decided I needed to take back my life.
This is a gift, a gift to truly understand others from a whole new perspective. To help heal the world one person at a time, starting with me.
The one thing I realized was the happier I am within, the easier emotions flow through me. Daily rituals and consistency are the key.
First thing was figuring out what emotions actually belonged to me. Every morning during my meditation, I use a symbol. Mine is a bear, and I ask the Universe to show me a bear when what I am feeling does not belong to me. In the beginning I saw the bear 95% of the time, who knew as an empath we really pick up so much during the day.
Then I use a heart center intention, where I have a gentle breeze coming through me all day long to clear out anything that does not belong to me.
While this was going on, I realized I needed to get to know me without all the influence of everyone around me. I had to figure out what made me happy.
It will take you some time but, in the end, it is worth the effort. I started on small questions such as:
What did I like to eat?
What types of shows did I like to watch?
What made me laugh?
What energized me?
What was fun for me?
What are my self-care rituals?
Who am I hanging out with, and do they support and challenge me to be and do better?
The truth of it is the more we do to honor ourselves on this path, the happier we become. The easier it is to feel these emotions and just let them flow through, without them stopping in our body and taking the emotions on as our own.
Honoring yourself is completely accepting where you are in this moment — mentally, physically and emotionally — and not expecting it to be something different, and not judging yourself by others’ standards.
When you can accept yourself exactly the way you are in this moment, it actually opens you up to a greater version of yourself. You can see the ways that you want to change to become happier within. What actually makes you who you are. You will come to see the vision of you, the path being laid out before you, using your empath gifts to heal others and honor yourself.
Always remember, being an empath is not a curse or something for you to suffer with. It is a gift meant to heal. To help others and yourself. To live a life fulfilling you.
Tricia Dycka is an intuitive empath coach, Reiki Master, bestselling author, teacher, speaker and enthusiast. Tricia’s mission is to help empaths get out of emotional overwhelm, by learning what emotions are really theirs and what belongs to others. She teaches that being an empath is a gift, that you can reclaim your life and be happy. Sign up for Empath 101: How to get out of emotional overwhelm, or join the Happy Empath Facebook group here.