Why You Should Feel Before You Speak.
Thoughts and prayers, xoxo, all my love: words that are easily expressed whenever we think about a person or wish them all the best.
On a postcard, in a text message, or whenever Facebook reminds us of a memorable day. But are we aware of the real effect our words have on people? And does the person who receives them truly understand what we meant to say?
Emotions versus thoughts
Our words hold power. It’s in the sound of every letter, and when those letters are put together to form syllables and words. Because every time we use words, it sends a vibration out into the world. This happens when we speak the words out loud, but also when they stay silent and only cross our mind and we think nobody will notice.
We all know the saying Be careful what you wish for, it might come true. Stories also teach us about the power of visualization — that the more we fantasize about something or someone, it will show up in our reality.
There is a kernel of truth in this knowledge.
But what we’re less aware of is that it’s not just the words or thoughts that produce this vibration. It is our underlying emotions that in the end determine what sound and which message we’ll emanate out into the world. Those emotions have a stronger vibration and influence than we might think.
Words carry the weight of your feelings
How often do you start your day with opening Facebook and noticing the pop-up message reminding you of a friend’s birthday? And in haste you scribble a few words on their timeline or leave a funny image? How common is it to end an e-mail or text message with xoxo, lots of love, a heart or another emoji?
But are those xoxo’s, kissing faces, or the words You’re in my thoughts and prayers exactly what we mean at that very moment? Is it what we truly feel?
We can leave as many xoxo’s at the end of a message, and the pictures we find online may be hilarious to look at, but the words will stay barren and meaningless without any emotion to back them up.
When you wish someone Good luck, but in the meantime you’re still angry with them, your words will carry the weight of those feelings. When you send out your annual Christmas cards just because it seems like the appropriate thing to do, it’s that feeling of indifference you’ll send with them. And what the other person will receive, consciously or subconsciously.
Be mindful of what you put out in the world through messages, social media or postcards. Or even in your mind. Stop for a moment and feel what it is you really want to give and what you want the other person to receive. Don’t just think, but feel the love, encouragement and joy you want to give with all your heart.
In our ever changing society that becomes more technological every day, a little bit of warmth goes a long way. And remember, what you send out, you will also receive.
Linda van der Kwast is a writer, a storyteller and a certified aura reader. She loves to explore what it is that moves people, and she has no fear of diving deep into a human soul to find that out. She likes writing about feelings and intuition. She hopes that one day people will recognize the powerful gift of feeling again. It inspired her to start her website. At times she mistakes the sea to be her home, and you’ll find her at the beach, far horizons filling her eye, wondering what’s out there. Closer to home you can meet her at Facebook or Twitter with a cup of tea and chocolate, balancing between expressing herself in Dutch and English.