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Straighten Your Crown and Invest in Yourself This Year.


It’s 2020, and this year I am making a commitment to myself.

I am committing to my worth, and I am dropping my fear of not being liked through the act of claiming all that I am.

I am a queen, and you are a queen or a king. We are all royalty. And the crown I wear? That crown is the symbol of my standards. The standards I will hold myself and others to, the latter if they are to enjoy or have access to my presence.

In 2019, and in many previous years, I didn’t have those standards, those boundaries that set the tone for my relationships, and I will be damned if I will spend another year not valuing how amazing I truly am. And my wish for you is that you too will join me in this place. Because damn, you are amazing too.

This year, I am choosing to allocate my time to investing in myself. How many times do you and I continue to invest our energy, our time, our love on people, as friends or lovers, with absolutely no return on that investment? If it was our money we were investing with no return, or even a loss on return, we would pull our money out pretty quick. Yet I do not put the same value on myself.

If you or I carry on like that, our cup of love will be completely empty. I can’t love others with an empty cup. This year, I am filling my cup with love for myself. The love I look to give to others, this year my intention is to give that same love to myself.

In 2020, I will not put my relationship goals before my internal goals. My goal this year will be to keep focusing on growing and healing. I won’t keep seeing only the best in people and ignoring the worst.

This year I will be realistic, and realize not everyone has a heart like mine, and I will choose to surround myself with people who see the real me and reflect that image back to me, not just through their words, but through their actions. I will surround myself with people who will physically show up, and be ready to show that they love me with rawness and authenticity.

I choose to be surrounded by souls who are not afraid to love.

This year I will be working on my emotional intelligence, learning that what I feel should not dictate what my next actions will be, and practicing managing my emotions — not ignoring or suppressing them, but not letting them shape my life anymore.

I will work on remembering that I have no power over others’ actions, or how those actions have affected me, but instead remembering what I do have power over is my truth, that no amount of heartbreak will ever make me forget who the fuck I am, what I bring to the table and just how worthy I am. This I am certainly committing to.

In 2020, I will not only heal from my past, but also completely detach from it. Why? Because I am not taking that shit forward with me. I will not let the past blind my eyes to the blessings that my higher power is laying at my feet today, in this moment. I am starting with a clean slate. Not with fear, and not with resentment of the past and past lovers, but with faith and courage.

I am running to grab my future with open arms and an open heart, and I claim all that is waiting for me. I am not going to miss a single moment of this beautiful life, just because my energy is still stuck in my past.

In my new life, I will be mindful of my spiritual environment. And that involves the people I surround myself with. I am ready this year to cut people out of my life who don’t treat me the way I know I deserve to be treated. I am going to put myself through a spiritual social detox, because my priority is me, and my self-love, and that means I can’t take everyone along with me this year.

Cutting people out of one’s life can be painful, but what I have learnt in 2019 is that it is even more painful to be surrounded by people who don’t deserve you or know your worth. Don’t let that be your life. I certainly won’t.

Because you and I deserve better,  You are a queen or a king, and I am a queen. Now let’s all straighten up our crowns and go face this new year.


Kim Turfrey is a mother and lover of life who lives in New Zealand and has spent a lifetime working with plants as well as Earth and Spiritual energies in order to find healing for herself and others. Being born with the gift of disability has enabled her to see the world through different eyes, and develop a deep love and gratitude for life. She works with people all around the world through the vehicle of her business Confirmations of Self, and empowers them with sets of tools that enable them to identify and move through the current and future challenges they face in the unification process. If you would like to contact Kim for enquiries about this work, you can get hold of her via email or Facebook.


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