Death Mother Archetype and the Mature Feminine.
Marion Woodman said, in a lecture, that the Mature Feminine will rise again in this world through the healing of addiction.
I listened to that sentence over and over again in my car, in my head and, at times, when waking up in the morning. I could feel a profound expansiveness in this truth working its way through the bones in my body, through a feeling I could only describe as Eros, the divine love of the Great Mother herself bringing this healing golden salve to the painful parts of my psyche.
A major part of our suffering and human condition is deeply connected to addiction, our unconscious search for mothering — a deep disconnection from grounded, nourishing, nurturing, fierce love of the Erotic Mother who embodies the flourishing nature of what it is to be alive.
Even in co-dependency, the addiction is to the process of trying to extract nutrients from places where very little love is allowed to live.
In essence, this is what it feels like, to me, right now in this Western culture we call civilization.
These are places of deep trauma, extending down into the collective psyche where the living, modern expression of hatred and separation in our world is an expression of this deep wound from Her.
The death mother archetype is revealing herself to be healed.
The death mother was first described by Marie-Louise von Franz, a Jungian analyst. This aspect of the Mother archetype is the deep shadow expression of the Feminine, while the Great Mother archetype is the expression of the Mature Feminine nourished by Eros.
The shadow expression is the deeply wounded aspect of this energy, disconnected from the fullness of Eros (which is also very sexualized in death mother culture, where she lacks a true depth of feeling) as well as from the heart of deep love and sensing.
The death mother is the wife of the patriarchy.
She rules through oppression of the Feminine, of the soul life. She pulls us away from anything life-affirming. She may be the mother who hates her children, is envious of them, or doesn’t want to be a mother. She is the mother who may even unconsciously wish her children to be dead.
She may project her unlived life onto her children, which robs them of their essential nature and the space to unfurl as themselves.
She is a state of frozenness in the body. She pulls us out of creative flow. She feeds off of shame. She gorges on trauma, encourages the denial of trauma, and lives in the heart of gaslighting, emotional and spiritual abuse. She isn’t just a personal expression through our personal mothers, but of the Culture Mother herself.
We internalize this death mother as a part of our internal representation of Mother, along with our personal mother and how we were mothered.
We internalize this oppression of soul and humanity, disconnection from true Eros and the pleasure of being fully who we truly are, engaging in creative acts of benevolent contribution to the well-being of all.
This is a time we are facing off with the Death Mother, calling on the fierce grace of the Great Mother in her loving form to assist us in transforming these energies of addiction and co-dependency with a way of life that is no longer sustainable to the well-being of this planet, to society or to humanity as a whole.
This is a deep trauma that feels like scarcity, that we are told a great lie about — that it is a mindset issue, that keeps us on a hamster wheel, when in fact we are deprived of love and sold things that will not fill this void within us.
It is by standing in this crossroads, finding the place of Mother, of our true home within this matter or Mother of our physical form, that we metabolize this internalized architecture into something powerful, life-affirming and so revolutionary it’s been kept from us for a very long time.
Here’s to our reclamation of rootedness in sanity, wisdom and love.
Dr. Nandi Hetenyi is a psychospiritual healer, soul mentor and writer. She has carved out her own path based on 20+ years of clinical experience and an equal amount of time studying and practicing Buddhism, yoga, meditation, shamanic healing, ritual and energy healing. After recovering herself from addiction and experiencing an awakening to her soul, she fused her knowledge of psychology and trauma with both her studied and lived experience of shamanic and Buddhist healing modalities, creating an innovative approach to healing the soul wound at the root of so much addiction, shame and ongoing trauma. You can follow Dr. Hetenyi on Instagram and find out more about her work on her website.