you & me
“These birds do not need you. They know how to fly. They know how to hunt.” This was written upon the cover of the San Diego Reader sitting on the coffee table. In the photograph was a gorgeous image of a woman with a golden eagle mid-flight with its wicked talons splayed, reaching to grip her ...
I no longer miss you with a consuming sadness or in a soul-shattering, heart-collapsing kind of way. In fact, it’s not even really sadness. It’s more of an acknowledgment that something that was once vibrantly ever-present is now gone. I imagine it is an experience not entirely unlike an ...
Poetry pours through the splitting holes and music runs through my hair. I chase the shadows scurrying and learn to silence the critical epilogue. Knowing, we are not an ending but living in a perpetual healing.
Isn’t that exactly what marriage is? A binding contract between two people (traditionally a heterosexual couple with the purpose of procreation) wrought with expectation and impending disappointment and heartbreak.
When you find yourself truly alone in this world, starting over, and seemingly unloved, it is difficult to find empathy and walk in the shoes of another. Somehow, I was able to do that: through the love I had for my children, I could see their pain and accept my part in that pain.
Admittedly, I’d had some stressful and shitty things happen over the past few months. However, I realized within minutes of waking up that morning that I had been making a habit of being sad. I hadn’t just been reminding others that I was going to be sad that month, I had actually been ...
After I went through the break-up that almost killed me (literally!) and wrote about it to share the wisdom I extracted from the experience, I had many people contact me telling me that they had been broken up for 2-3 years and they still wait around for their ex to come back.
You were an answer that led to so many more questions but for the first time in my life I believed that everything was going to be okay. I decided I’d rather hold your hand and talk about the shapes in the clouds than worry about what was going to happen tomorrow.