After my divorce, I'd returned home. Like an abused dog, with my tail between my legs. Swapped out a broken heart for the abuse I was more familiar with.
For some, we make a choice and soar into the unknown based on our past experiences because we aren't that scared. For others, we close our eyes, open the handle of the door we choose, and dive under the temple we know so well and pray it all works out.
Now that I have a choice, I want someone who will choose me back. I used to think I was searching for someone to have and to hold, but I know now I am searching for someone with practice in letting go.
Are you getting married because you’re getting older and you don’t want to be alone, or because you’ve found someone whom you truly love, whom you feel worthy and deserving of? When we make choices based on fear, we lose ourselves and end up living lives that aren’t our own.
Think of the first person you dated. Would this person have been the best choice for your life partner? Go even further back, and imagine the first person you had a crush on. Finding a great partner is complicated, and expecting yourself to get it right on the first try is unreasonable. It’s ...
Congruent authenticity happens in the guts and bowels of your life. Being authentic is the grunt-work of the soul, of any deeply human, spiritual path. Being half here, half there, halfhearted, faking it to look good, strategizing to make things easier for your self — that’s the common way of ...