Esther De La Ford
I guess I don’t have much to add to the discussion that hasn’t already been said, but can we please just stop teaching our boys that the only option is to consistently be on the hunt? Like, with a little softness, the gazelle will come to you very willingly, the kink can come later.
I am not writing this as a professional sex therapist. While I am trained and certified in various fields of therapy, I am writing this as a woman who has blossomed and is still blossoming after sexual trauma. I am writing this as a woman who is a sexual being, and was a sexual being before she ...
Suggesting that the Stanford rapist's actions were a mistake caused by alcohol is to suggest that every man has an inner rapist, and that there is a line -- perhaps 5 drinks, or perhaps 10 -- that, when crossed, turns men into animals incapable of self-control.
All you actually need to have to do that dreaded Thing is a few seconds of stubbornness, enough stubbornness to try, to make a little teeny tiny small and smelly promise to yourself that you will try, that you're open to it not working and looking stupid and feeling small.
What is it that I have quietly learned in my 21 years as a female on this planet that has taught me to feel that if I spend my Sunday baking brownies to devour all by myself, lounging pants-less with hairy legs reading a book or watching 15 episodes of Family Guy, or napping or dancing or ...
To snuff out the light of just one human being, even if that human being is you, is an act against humanity, because one light shining especially bright is all it takes to change the world.