A man will be conscious and present to the same degree that you are actively radiating your love and allowing life force itself to roll through your being.
This healing, and unearthing, presents the most beautiful gift. It clears away the pathway to your pure soul, to who you really are.
The root of metta must begin by instilling in yourself the strength, support and loving-kindness that you will then draw upon to bless others.
I have learned that my scars, both internal and external, are not something to be ashamed of. My scars are proof that I survived.