It took the overwhelming fear of possible destruction of every kind to bring me to self-reflection and intense honesty.
Truth, honesty, and transparency are the forgotten words of an ancient language in a culture hidden by obscurity. Today we say things like 'Truth is relative', 'We received misinformation', and 'We couldn’t reveal the truth for your protection' to utter falseties and avoid responsibility.
Girls, what if instead of limiting yourself to being pretty, well-dressed, sexy, or skinny, you could simply be genuinely loving, kind and compassionate? Boys, what if instead of limiting yourself to being macho, rich, or popular, you could simply allow yourself to be open, genuine, and maybe ...
You are always ready to strike back, to chop off the enemy’s head. For being told what to do. For being asked a favor even. Everything that smells the slightest bit like expectation or demand gets you mad. Of course you’ll do it — but with an inner No of deep abandon and ...
Love in action is integrity, honesty, humility, vulnerability, compassion, courage and accountability. Self-love means being willing to see and accept yourself as you are, and allowing and trusting others to see the whole messy truth, not a strategically partial truth.
That world, and rightfully so, was not good enough for my parents. Hence, our unspoken family motto, trust no one.
This last one was a year of intense self-reflection and healing. I endured both excitement and pain brought on by the speedy transition of the past few years, and by my commitment to seeing and integrating parts of myself that I had turned away from for so long.