We can think about all the things we’d like to get from other people, and make a plan for how we’ll give every single one of those things to ourselves -- how we’ll fill ourselves up.
Are you getting married because you’re getting older and you don’t want to be alone, or because you’ve found someone whom you truly love, whom you feel worthy and deserving of? When we make choices based on fear, we lose ourselves and end up living lives that aren’t our own.
Forgiveness is for the forgiver more than it is for the one being forgiven, because you’re the one who carries the weight of the hurt and the anger. You’re the one who is eaten up by it. You’re the one who remains a victim, and the one left feeling powerless and helpless.