It takes two... This realization was known and placed somewhere in my being, but I had never had the emotional capacity to apply it to my own life.
We have the ability to light a torch for others should they find themselves someday wandering as we were -- tired, thirsty, disillusioned.
Please run as fast as you can from anyone who would rather you be nice over being real. That said, being real is not an excuse to clobber people!
Living real means recognizing that all of us at one time or another will mess up. We're going to be a part of the conditions that cause hurt for others.
There are a lot of beliefs of how breakups should be. We tossed out all the etiquette, felt all the feelings together, and stayed really connected.