It does get better, a little at a time... Our survival not only gives hope to others, but sharing our experiences allows us to help in their healing.
Survivors witness and feel beneath the story... Fragmented, often locked away in an unconscious vault; we banish pain in order to survive it.
Please run as fast as you can from anyone who would rather you be nice over being real. That said, being real is not an excuse to clobber people!
While you learn to excavate within and subjugate without, you are writing your own spells to manifest a magic that changes the world.